《美丽英文(励志卷)》

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美丽英文(励志卷)- 第31节


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取相应的行动;如果反馈信息是消极的,我们当中勇敢的人会改变局势,而更多的怯懦者通常会被这些消极的反馈阻挠,停止了前进的脚步。
  信心通过了解、理解和正确运用下面这些原则和因素,通常可以获得。
  (1)知识+经验+积极反馈=自信。
  (2)成功的结果带来积极的反馈。
  (3)成功的结果源自不懈的努力和反复的尝试。
  (4)唯有相信自己终会成功,才能不断尝试。
  这个原则似乎表明,我们必须相信自己有能力成功,才有可能经历某些成功。确实如此。信心原则中的知识部分就源于此,也是原则中第一个等式成立的原因。在没有任何尝试就相信我们会成功前,我们必须拥有一些知识,如成功需要什么,要有怎样的优势和能力的综合作用,也必须了解“失败”的真相。
  尝试了,却没能如愿达到目标的结果,不是失败。只有当我们承认达不到,并放弃尝试时,才会出现失败。事实上,只有两种方式会导致失败。(1)在达到真正想要的目标前,你放弃了;(2)继续在错误的道路上前进,因为,你最初作出的选择是错误的,但你仍执拗地坚持。
  举个例子,假设你开车去见一个朋友,但地点不熟悉。你走错了方向,迷路了。
  在第一个失败的原则中,你发现自己迷失了方向,并试图改正路线。但是,你偏离得太远,因而不能一次性地改正,回归正轨。所以,你要一次又一次地改正。三四次以后,你确信永远无法找到自己的路,于是,你放弃了,停下了车,你的目的地将永远无法到达。
  在第二个失败原则中,尽管你走错了方向,但你必须坚持。因为作出一个新选择意味着,你作出的最初选择让你迷失了方向,你失败了。所以,你坚持在错误的道路上,尽管知道它是错误的、错得有多严重,仍然拒绝改变。
  上文中提到的这两种假设听起来很荒谬,但是,在达到目标前就放弃或离开,或者坚持在已经发现的错误上的人,在这个世界上还有很多。
  你必须愿意改变你的路线,并且坚持改变,一次又一次地根据需要进行调整,去接近你的目标,才能确保成功。你是否能达到目标,取决于你认为自己最终能成功的信念。这就又给我们带来了信心原则。
  你对自己和自身能力的了解,以及懂得如何使它们产生更大的效用,会产生一种信念让你坚持不懈地去尝试。在当今这个匆忙的世界,有时,我们忽略了认真去审视自己最有价值的资产——自身。只有自知和自我了解,能让我们相信,自己拥有找到正确的解决方法和达到目的的能力。
  不了解自己的人容易走弯路,他们的个人范畴模糊,精力没有集中。深入而准确的自我评估,可以为我们实现目标导航。没有核心力量和明确的个人界限的引导,我们决不可能成功,因为我们的目标是什么,或者应该怎么样,连自己都不清楚。
  了解并尊重自己本质的人,才会开心快乐、精力集中、目标明确。他们用基本的工具尝试新事物,树立新目标,并持之以恒地去追求。这些人才会获得成功。他们成功是因为每一个目标的达到,增强了他们对自己有能力成功的信心,使他们更努力地去尝试更多。充分的自信会产生好的结果,有充分的自信,就一定能获得成功。

成功的钥匙(2)
Your Key to Certain Success
  Anonymous
  One of the most important attributes an individual can have is confidence。 Confidence is invaluable in every area of life; especially in business or in achieving any degree of greatness; it is absolutely essential。 Unfortunately; there are few places we can go to learn this essential skill。 Yet; it is a skill and; as such; can be developed with the right tools。
  The first tool for gaining confidence is knowledge:knowledge of your own strengths and limitations; and knowledge of the arena1 in which you wish to excel。 But knowledge alone isn’t enough。 Knowledge leads to confidence only when it is validated by experience。 We test the validity of what we think or believe by putting the theory into actual2 practice and gathering data or feedback from the experience。 If the feedback3 is positive; we assume our theories are correct and act accordingly。 If the feedback is negative; the bold among us will adjust our course; while the more timid often allow the negative feedback to stop them cold。
  Confidence can be gained by knowing; understanding and correctly applying the following formulas and factors:
  (1) Knowledge + Experience + Positive Feedback = Confidence。
  (2) Positive feedback es from successful outes。
  (3) Successful outes are the result of consistent practice and repeated attempts。
  (4) Repeated attempts are possible only when we believe we will eventually succeed。
  The formula seems to say that we must believe in our ability to succeed before we have experienced any semblance of success; and that is true。 That’s where the knowledge part of the confidence formula es in; and why it is the first equation in the formula。 Before we can believe we will succeed without ever having made an attempt; we must have some knowledge as to what success entails and what strengths and abilities we bring to the mix。 We must also know the truth about “failure”。
  Failure is not the result of attempting to achieve a goal and falling short of the mark。 Failure occurs when we allow falling short of the mark to cause us to quit trying。 Actually; there are only two ways to fail;(1) Give up before you reach a goal you really want; or (2) Continue on a path that is wrong for you because you made a wrong choice initially and believe the erroneous choice is the one you must stay with。
  Suppose; for example; you got into your car intending to meet a friend at an unfamiliar location。 You get turned around on the way there and get lost。
  In failure formula4 number one you discover you are lost and attempt to correct your course。 However; you are too far off course for just one correction to get you back on track; so you make another correction and another one。 After three or four corrections you decide you will never be able to find your way; so you give up; park your car; and never reach your destination。

成功的钥匙(3)
In failure formula number two you decide that even though you made a wrong turn; you must stick with it because to make a new choice would mean you failed when you made the original decision that got you lost。 So you continue down the wrong road; knowing it’s wrong; but refusing to make an alteration because you’ve already made a choice; however wrong it may be。
  Both scenarios sound pretty absurd5 in that context; but the world is full of people who give up and quit before reaching their goal; and who stay with bad choices long after they have discovered they are bad。
  To ensure success you must be willing to alter your course and keep altering it; and to try again and again; as many times as it takes; to reach your destination。 Whether you reach it or not will depend on your belief in your ability to eventually arrive; and that brings us back to the confidence formula。
  The faith to keep trying ultimately es from knowing yourself and your abilities; and knowing how to use them most effectively。 In the hustle…bustle of today’s world; we sometimes forget to take a thorough look at our most valuable asset—ourselves。 Only with self…awareness and understanding can we e to believe in our ability to find the right solution and to arrive at our goals。
  People who don’t know themselves are easily side…tracked。 They have no well…defined personal boundaries and no center of power。 A thorough and accurate self…assessment can provide the pass we need to get and stay on track。 Without a center of power and personal boundaries6 to guide us; there is no way we can achieve our goals because there is no way to know for sure what our goals are; or should be。
  Happy; centered; well…directed people are people; who know their own core being and honor it。 These are the people who have the b
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