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《感觉良好，新心理疗法》 大卫？伯恩斯在这本书中写道：“先有行动，后有动机。你得先给水泵注水，让它启动起来。如果想等到有心情时再做，那不知要等到什么时候。”不想做某事时，你可能会先把它放一放，但我们往往会在投身做这件事后才会劲头十足。
自律是习惯的形成过程。它的益处很多，自律行为由少及多，久而久之，便形成了习惯。一旦彻底克服了旧习性，你就会感觉更好。自律时——无论是身体上，还是精神上——我们都处于最佳状态。
Secrets Every Achiever Knows
Anonymous
In October 1982； a 25…year…old woman finished the New York City Marathon。 No big deal until you learn that Linda Down has cerebral palsy and was the first woman ever to plete the ； but kept going until she crossed the finish line； 11 hours after she started。 Her handicap limited her speed but not her determination。
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once wrote，“Great is the art of beginning； but greater the art is of ending。” How nice it would be if we all had a genie who could help us finish what we begin。 Unfortunately； we don’t。 But what we do have is a dynamic called discipline—which extracts a high price。 Following one of Paderewski’s performances； a fan said to him； “I’d give my life to play like that。” The brilliant pianist replied； “I did。”txt电子书分享平台
每个成功者都知道的秘密（3）
Acplishment is often deceptive because we don’t see the pain and perseverance that produced it。 So we may credit the achiever with brains； brawn or lucky breaks； and let ourselves off the hook because we fall short in all three。 Not that we could all be concert pianists just by exercising enough discipline。 Rather； each of us has the makings of success in some endeavor； but we will achieve this only if we apply our wills and work at it。
How can we acquire stick…at…itiveness？ There is no simple； fast formula。 But I have developed a way of thinking that has rescued my own vacillating will more than once。 Here are the basic elements：
“Don’t” power This is as important as willpower。 The ancient Chinese philosopher Mencius said； “Men must be decided on what they will not do； and then they are able to act with vigor in what they ought to do。”
Discipline means choices Every time you say yes to a goal or objective； you say not to many more。 Every prize has its price。 The prize is the yes； the price is the no。 Igor Gorin； the noted Ukrainian…American baritone； told of his early days studying voice。 He loved to smoke a pipe； but one day his professor said；“Igor； you will have to make up your mind whether you are going to be a great singer； or a great pipe…smoker； you cannot be both。” So the pipe went。
Delayed gratification M。 Scott Peck； ； author of the best…seller The Road Less Traveled； describes this tool of discipline as “a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with。”
This might involve routine daily decisions—something as simple as skipping a favorite late…night TV show and getting to bed early； to be wide awake for a meeting the next morning。 Or it might involve longer…term resolves。 A young widow with three children decided to invest her insurance settlement in a college education for herself。 She considered the realities of a tight budget and little free time； but these seemed small sacrifices in return for the doors that a degree would open。 Today she is a highly paid financial consultant。
The secret of such mitment is getting past the drudgery and seeing the delight。 “The fact is that many worthwhile endeavors aren’t fun；” says syndicated radio and TV mentator Mort Crim。 “True； all work and no play makes Johnny a dull boy。 But trying to turn everything we do into play makes for terrible frustrations； because life—even the most rewarding one —includes circumstances that aren’t fun at all。 I like my job as a journalist。 It’s personally satisfying； bit it isn’t always fun。”
Achieving a balance Never confuse discipline with rigidity。 Perfection is not the aim； rather； strive for the peace of mind that es from being in charge of yourself。
每个成功者都知道的秘密（4）
Most of us need interludes in our work to take a walk or eat snack…whatever revives and refreshes。 Your breathers don’t need to be lengthy to shake out the cobwebs and give some relief。 Such rewards act as incentives for finishing a task； as well as helping you to maintain momentum。
True discipline achieves a balance of producing； not driving。 Even discipline needs to be disciplined。
Self…development Disciplined people are happier people because they are fulfilling inner potential。 A woman at one of my seminars told me about her six year…old daughter who swam with a team and practiced every morning for an hour； swimming 2000 to 3000 meters； she related a conversation her daughter had with a family friend。
“Do you like swimming？” the friend asked。
“Yes； I love it。”
“Is it fun？”
“No！”
That six…year…old had learned what many adults never experience： the joy of discipline and self…development。 Unfortunately； the very word discipline puts us off because it sounds restrictive and punitive—like a truant officer stalking us to make sure we toe the line。 True discipline isn’t on your back needling you with imperatives； it is at your side； nudging you with incentives。 When you understand that discipline is self…caring； not self…castigating； you won’t cringe at its mention； but will cultivate it。
Charley Boswell； a former University of Alabama football star with hopes of a professional baseball career； lost his eyesight in World War II； but that didn’t stop him“to bee the National Blind Golf Champion 17 times。” He was quoted as saying；“I never count what I’ve lost。 I only count what I have left。” That is self…development—that is discipline。
Habit…changing strategies Many a person’s downfall es in trying to change a bad habit by focusing on an undesirable behavior to replace it。
Countless people tell me they would like to eat better but don’t want to “give up” tasty food。 Rather than thinking about what they can’t have； they should think about what they can eat。 Fruit juice with sparkling mineral water is a delicious substitute for high…calorie soft drinks； snacks and cookies prepared with whole grains and fried fruits give candy bars good petition。
It isn’t easy to change old habits。 An overweight woman came to me during a seminar and said； “I’m so undisciplined。 I can’t stick to a diet and my house is always a mess。 I feel like a slob。” I told her she wasn’t totally undisciplined。“You made it to this conference。 You arrive promptly at each session； and you are neatly dressed。” She almost smiled； and then I added； “There’s probably a reason why you haven’t been able to lose weight or get your home in order。”
Later； I found out there was a big reason。 She was widowed a year before。 Her husband had been an alcoholic who verbally abused her all 24 years of their marriage。 It never occurred to her that a poor self…image was keeping her from effecting positive changes。 With this realization； she took the next s